perfect place for 2 question I have for you...

[DR. B]

Ok, I have this friend who I am very much in love with.... but.... she has a boyfriend. She knows I like her, in fact she knows I'm in love with her. We get along great, except when she starts to mention things that her dude does for her, which I do not care to know. 20 minutes ago, she sent me a pic of some Louis Vuitton shoes that he bought her and I told her to "stop sending me pics of what your man buys you. I do not care what he gives you on the whim. To me that shit hurts and offensive. Jesus Christ, that's all I ask of you." she says "it shouldn't matter what he buys me, I just want to show you. besides you are my friend it shouldn't even matter to you." This is where I blew up and told her "OMG, fuck you! I can't believe you still don't get it!" I don't know why I'm still friends with this girl all these years. I've always heard that guys and girls just cannot be friends and I'm beginning to realize that this is true. I mean I know she likes me has a friend, fine, but she knows I like her more than a friend, so why send me pics of the things he got you?

1. What I want to know is, was I in the wrong for blowing up like that, I mean shouldn't she at least respect my boundries like I respect hers?

2. Can guys and girls even make it has best friends?

please, any answers are acceptable. am looking forward to the serious answers as well as the dickhead answers.

 

[Jack Davenport]

Sorry to tell you this, but the girl already knew how you felt about her and it is a power trip for her. She says those things because she knows she is gonna rattle your cage. Your post reads like a girly man, no offense. You'll never get her.. You are whipped as fuck over this girl and you never even fucked her or will you ever.

She probably tells all her friends about you and they laugh about it.

I am not trying to be a dickhead. It just seems that you come across as a major puss. Grow a pair and find another girl. One that likes you for real.

 

[Mayhem]

1. I don't think you were wrong at all. But, this is hardly the perfect place to be asking. None of us can come close to knowing what the parameters of your relationship with this girl are. But, she should respect your feelings. One outside example is if I have a friend who lost a parent and is still very emotional about it. OK, I'm going to stay off the subject. Many friends have things that are off limits.

2. I have had many female friends, some who were very pretty, who I was friends with, but wouldn't have taken it a step further. I think it's not only "possible", but it happens all the time.

 

[Thomas O'Malley]

1. What I want to know is, was I in the wrong for blowing up like that, I mean shouldn't she at least respect my boundries like I respect hers?

Honestly? When she is a real friend to you, no matter what you really feel for her, you shouldn't have done that. It might be so that it's a power trip towards her, like Blue Countach already mentioned, but it has been your choice to stay friends with her knowing she has a boyfriend she probably loves. So that also means she wants to talk about him, with her friends, and you're one of them. If you are also in love with her I can understand it's hard, but then you should talk with this girl and explain her what she can talk about and what she has to avoid when she's talking with you.

2. Can guys and girls even make it has best friends?

Yes, I'm convinced they can be. And the reason why I am convinced is because I'm the living proof. My very best friend, beside my wife, is a girl who I know longer then I know my wife. When I met my wife she didn't feel good about it either, so I decided both of them should meet to see if they could get along, and as expected they couldn't. So I told my current wife (back then she was still my girlfriend) she had to learn to cope with it, because I'm not the type of guy who let his friends down over a new relationship. Now we are ten years further, that girl is still my very best friend, and my wife and her get along better then ever before, although it took quiet some time.

 

[DR. B]

You are whipped as fuck over this girl and you never even fucked her or will you ever.

She probably tells all her friends about you and they laugh about it.

I am not trying to be a dickhead. It just seems that you come across as a major puss. Grow a pair and find another girl. One that likes you for real.

whipped, yes. fuck her? probably not, because I've had sex with three of her friends already so thats probably why she sees me differently, like some dude that just wants to try and fuck her and never call her again. Those friends are actually jealous cause I do like her. of course ur not trying to be a dickhead, after all I'm asking on my favorite porn forum. major puss? nah, cause if you called me that out in the world, I'd knock you the fuck out, but I do welcome your honesty.

 

[DR. B]

1. I don't think you were wrong at all. But, this is hardly the perfect place to be asking. None of us can come close to knowing what the parameters of your relationship with this girl are. But, she should respect your feelings. One outside example is if I have a friend who lost a parent and is still very emotional about it. OK, I'm going to stay off the subject. Many friends have things that are off limits.

2. I have had many female friends, some who were very pretty, who I was friends with, but wouldn't have taken it a step further. I think it's not only "possible", but it happens all the time.

1. trust me, this is a perfect place for asking.

2.why wouldn't you have taken it a step further if you don't mind me asking.

 

[DR. B]

If you are also in love with her I can understand it's hard, but then you should talk with this girl and explain her what she can talk about and what she has to avoid when she's talking with you.

Yes, I'm convinced they can be. And the reason why I am convinced is because I'm the living proof. My very best friend, beside my wife, is a girl who I know longer then I know my wife. When I met my wife she didn't feel good about it either, so I decided both of them should meet to see if they could get along, and as expected they couldn't. So I told my current wife (back then she was still my girlfriend) she had to learn to cope with it, because I'm not the type of guy who let his friends down over a new relationship. Now we are ten years further, that girl is still my very best friend, and my wife and her get along better then ever before, although it took quiet some time.

1. I have talked to her about certain things she shouldn't tell me, but she keeps doing it.

2. that is a great answer, and i wish me and her could last that long, but perhaps my question should have been "can a guys be friends with a girl he is in love with?"

 

[Thomas O'Malley]

1. I have talked to her about certain things she shouldn't tell me, but she keeps doing it.

If you know her as long as you say you know her, you must be able to have a certain impact on her? Perhaps you should try to get it clear to her again in a proper and decent way? If she still continues then, you can ignore her for a while. I'm quiet sure she'll come back to you to ask you why you backed off or don't contact her anymore. And then you can explain it once more. Maybe then it finally stops? If not, she's just trying to make you jealous and then you should take conclusions.

2. that is a great answer, and i wish me and her could last that long, but perhaps my question should have been "can a guys be friends with a girl he is in love with?"

It all depends on you in that case and how you can cope with these feelings. You know you don't have a chance with this girl as long as she's together with her boyfriend. So main question is, can you ignore a feeling called love? I don't think so, so the only sollution left is then to try to cope with it, but that also involves being open to her if she needs to talk to you about her relationship and her boyfriend.
A female friend of mine once admitted she was in love with me again, and we talked about it for hours, days even. Just to see how we could resolve that problem without someone getting hurt. Well, that love went away after a while because it had no future since I told her I was not in love with her and was going to stay with my girlfriend. Now she's still a very dear friend, although we live a long way from each other, but we meet about every two months in a pub or so to chat about our lives now and back then.
So it is possible, but it's absolutely not easy.

 

[L3ggy]

Neither probably couldn't.

 

[DR. B]

If you know her as long as you say you know her, you must be able to have a certain impact on her? Perhaps you should try to get it clear to her again in a proper and decent way? If she still continues then, you can ignore her for a while. I'm quiet sure she'll come back to you to ask you why you backed off or don't contact her anymore. And then you can explain it once more. Maybe then it finally stops? If not, she's just trying to make you jealous and then you should take conclusions.

It all depends on you in that case and how you can cope with these feelings. You know you don't have a chance with this girl as long as she's together with her boyfriend. So main question is, can you ignore a feeling called love? I don't think so, so the only sollution left is then to try to cope with it, but that also involves being open to her if she needs to talk to you about her relationship and her boyfriend.
A female friend of mine once admitted she was in love with me again, and we talked about it for hours, days even. Just to see how we could resolve that problem without someone getting hurt. Well, that love went away after a while because it had no future since I told her I was not in love with her and was going to stay with my girlfriend. Now she's still a very dear friend, although we live a long way from each other, but we meet about every two months in a pub or so to chat about our lives now and back then.
So it is possible, but it's absolutely not easy.

2. that is the best answer I've heard. reps to when I can. I believe I've cope with this long enough.

 

[Mayhem]

1. trust me, this is a perfect place for asking.

2.why wouldn't you have taken it a step further if you don't mind me asking.[/QUOTE]

Compatibility. I'm very much not a one-night-stand guy. I like to at least try to get a relationship going. One woman I was very good friends with, and who was a knockout, completely lived her life differently from how I do. But we were very close friends who leaned on each other regularly. But nothing would have ever come of anything, so we just kept having coffee and talking.

 

[BCT]

Sorry to tell you this, but the girl already knew how you felt about her and it is a power trip for her. She says those things because she knows she is gonna rattle your cage. Your post reads like a girly man, no offense. You'll never get her.. You are whipped as fuck over this girl and you never even fucked her or will you ever.

She probably tells all her friends about you and they laugh about it.

I am not trying to be a dickhead. It just seems that you come across as a major puss. Grow a pair and find another girl. One that likes you for real.

This! To the OP dude this is going to hurt like hell but you need to know the truth. WTF are you doing waiting around for a girl you will never have? Its time to move on,yesterday. You need to find someone else, sorry but I laughed when I read all these years? really, find another girl if that's even possible in your case. You dont know much about women at all. Hell no you can just be friends,thats pretty much a given and has been from the beginning of time. I feel bad for you.

 

[Jack Davenport]

I just want to reiterate that I am not trying to offend you. Just trying to knock some sense into you about this girl. She also probably discusses this with her boyfriend about how you are in love with her. Instead of pining over her, just go and start knocking the back out of some other chicks. One other thing to consider is that if you find another chick, she may become jealous and ratchet up the attention she gives you and you may find it enjoyable to play her like she is playing you. Fuck you deserve to turn the tables a little on her.

 

[DR. B]

This! To the OP dude this is going to hurt like hell but you need to know the truth. WTF are you doing waiting around for a girl you will never have? Its time to move on,yesterday. You need to find someone else, sorry but I laughed when I read all these years? really, find another girl if that's even possible in your case. You dont know much about women at all. Hell no you can just be friends,thats pretty much a given and has been from the beginning of time. I feel bad for you.

I've always been the type of guy that can get pussy no matter what, that's easy. I've never been the relationship kinda guy. I would have never in a million years thought I would fall for a woman, never. I always told myself that I would cheat if I ever got married. But then I met this chick from one of my girlfriends who was friends with her. We went out and I can remember that first night, I told myself I could marry this girl. I didn't rush things, I actually had fun just talking and doing things with her. while we were being friends, I've slept with some of her friends. but that was a long time ago, so I'm hoping she doesn't think of me has a whore cause shes been around as well. crazy thing is, that doesn't even matter. Love keeps me around. I try to move on, but it's like now when I have sex, it's just to get my dick wet. In the end I think of her.

O'malley said it best

 

[DR. B]

I just want to reiterate that I am not trying to offend you. Just trying to knock some sense into you about this girl. She also probably discusses this with her boyfriend about how you are in love with her. Instead of pining over her, just go and start knocking the back out of some other chicks. One other thing to consider is that if you find another chick, she may become jealous and ratchet up the attention she gives you and you may find it enjoyable to play her like she is playing you. Fuck you deserve to turn the tables a little on her.

funny thing is, I don't tell her when I hook up with some barfly. I don't tell her cause it's really none of her business just like her pics she sends me about the things her man buys her. I do believe though by turning the tables on her is by not talking to her cause she has already sent 9 text messages and called 3 times and I haven't answered them. So it must bother her somewhat, but I plan on not talking to her for awhile.

 

[L3ggy]

Already?

 

[DR. B]

Already?

yep.

 

[Legzman]

just fuck her and get it over with!

 

[DR. B]

just fuck her and get it over with!

I see her more than just a piece of ass, bro.

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

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